How I Creatively Design Spaces for Couples with Different Tastes
I recently was hired by a couple to decorate several rooms in their new home. Their tastes are pretty different - hers is more a transitional (almost coastal) vibe, while he is more concerned with function, durability, and a touch of whimsy. To create a design that both parties will like when tastes differ, I strive to LISTEN, take meticulous notes, and make sure that each person feels like his/her opinion matters. After all, blending design styles is actually what makes a design feel like it's customized. Another critical reason both partners should give input and be present is when the overall budget is discussed. The last thing anyone wants is to feel like an item was just way too cheaply made, or that that something breaks the bank!
1.) We Always Welcome & Encourage Complete Honesty
In order to gain the most while working with a decorator, interior-designer, or builder, it is critical that each partner is open and honest about likes, dislikes, and what they are willing to compromise on. I encourage honesty and feedback during each phase of the process. I usually begin with a presentation of two ideas per room. Usually the couple can agree on some pieces from each board, and then I can combine them to create a better overall fit for both. For example, recently my clients both really loved the style of a breakfast table, but one was concerned about the wood - that it may scratch too easily. A Plan B was to find a table that worked better for both of them.
2.) We Have the Expertise to Blend Styles Beautifully
Blending styles is when my creative juices begin to flow. Going to a Big Box furniture store usually takes away the creativity and blending of styles. Everything is very matchy-matchy, and to be frank, usually not of the best quality either. That's why hiring an interior decorator or designer gives you a room that truly can reflect your style, the way you live, and be a space that both parties will adore for years and years to come.
3.) We Tell Couples to Expect Compromise & Flexibility
When designing for more than one person, compromise is key. Compromise doesn't mean totally giving in, and not getting what you want. Frequently, it's more about being open-minded, and seeing things blended together in a beautiful way. For example, if you are really focused on a chair that you will be sitting on all the time, then that chair should have a high priority in the realm of comfort, and your desires should be highly considered. Perhaps the additional chairs in the room won't matter as much, as far as comfort goes. Plan on spending more of the budget on the most important pieces, and then choose more affordable options or choose to compromise on the other, less important pieces.
If you feel like you and your spouse will be at odds when trying to blend your style, don't worry! An objective third person such as your interior decorator can get the overall design that will please you both. Another positive is that your designer is not as emotionally involved as you and your spouse. You will also have the assurance that the aesthetic is balanced, cohesive, and just right. It's a win-win for all!
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Until next time,
Shana
